My network of HG survivors celebrates every time we have a mom who made it through and is holding her newborn baby in her arms. Yesterday, Hayden Mathews, posted these important survival tips in an HG support group and gave me permission to share with you. They are tips that I often share verbally but have not written in this succinct manner. Many of the tips are easier said than done, such as dealing with mom guilt, but it is possible. I have living proof of that one, as my daughters have grown into phenomenal young ladies who make me so proud, even though they were relatively “neglected” through my consecutive pregnancies. Please know that support is bountiful to see each of you through, regardless of where you are in your journey. My team, the HER Foundation and survivors like Hayden are here when you need us.
Enjoy Hayden’s post:
Just had my HG baby girl today. The minute I pushed out the placenta I felt relief. It was 9 months of absolute hell with hyperemesis. Here are some things that somewhat got me through it…
- Do not blame yourself ever. I would blame myself and it is out of our control, it’s a sickness that we didn’t ask for.
- Only talk to those who make you feel validated and supported.
- Take help when offered. I know it’s hard, but let others help you if it’s offered to you.
- It’s okay to be in survival mode! Some days my kids watched a lot of movies, but it’s okay.
- Get into therapy if you can- I did weekly therapy, and if I was too sick I’d do it over the internet.
- Find a doctor who takes you seriously and your condition seriously.
- Know that you are a badass warrior and will question everyday why.
- The mom guilt is real for your other kids but I promise in the end they will be okay.
- I’ve never met a group of stronger or more amazing women than in here, post and comment and ask questions.
- Use the hyperemesis website. It has so many amazing resources.
